Waiting for something to happen is just horrible. When certain things come into question, not things like juice preference or dinner dates, real things like love and loyalty, things you know but you don’t hardly know you know. Things you just think or see as a possibility.
I feel its important to be aware of such threats. To know about them, to watch them. Sometimes to do something about it, or to say something. If the perceived threat could lead to an outcome that is unacceptable, I think that’s when to bring it up.
However, sometimes the outcome is worse that you thought possible.
What do you do then?
When you feel the sting of betrayal like you just fell into a hornet’s nest. It’s large and swollen and hurts. It takes over for a while, cause you just can’t ignore that much sting.
Let me tell you, that sting will soon become relief. You can let it go. You can stop wondering, you can stop data gathering. You can finally relax and give yourself permission to not care.
When you can let go and not care about something that has been worrying you for a long time, that’s a great feeling. After the sting is gone.
I can not care as good as anyone, better than most. But, it hasn’t always been that way. I have waited for the proof. I have waited for the sting. Even when I knew it was coming. I mean, we can’t live like Ben Stiller in “Along Came Polly.” Risk assessment can have a great benefit but all the time, really?
Dick Cooper said his one general life advice was to “enter into the fog.” It’s not that anymore. He changed it, but I understand that fog method. Sometimes we go in and don’t really know what we’re going to be faced with. At any given time can only see so far ahead and things change.
My basketball coach taught me to pivot. That’s really an important thing for b-ball, gosh we need to pivot in life. I don’t know how many times I’ve had to pivot something or other. Who talks about life pivots? Shit, yall. We gotta be able to pivot.
Be ready for the changes and roll with them. Pivot to meet the need.